• Kari

Organize Your Closet

Updated: Oct 10, 2018

Scrolling through Instagram or Facebook, it won't be long before you see some kind of side by side comparison photo. A side by side showing a fresh new cut and color. A before and after of a kitchen being remodeled. A weight loss journey, lash extensions, closet organizing, skin correction, anti aging creams, ... the list goes on. I, my friend, am a before. This marketing tactic is genius because every time I see one of these posts I am definitely identifying with the before group, triggering my inner critic and picking myself apart. Saying things that I would never say out loud, or to another person. Wanting to buy all the creams. Why is it that we talk to ourselves with the harsh unforgiveness we would never show another person. Every time I hear the phrase "Love your neighbor as yourself" (I'm Southern Baptist, so let's face it - it's a lot), I catch myself thinking how that wouldn't always be such a great thing. I am not always my biggest fan.

Have you ever stopped to think what the common denominator is when life isn't always going well? Spoiler alert : It's usually you. Life is hard. Like, all of the time. It doesn't get easier. Usually, it gets harder. (Insert the coffee story I love so well):

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere.

Why did you spill the coffee? "Well because someone bumped into me, of course!" Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. *Whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out.* Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It's easy to fake it, until you get rattled. *So we have to ask ourselves... “what's in my cup?" When life gets tough, what spills over?

Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions?

So, if the cup is inevitably going to spill, I am going to have some yummy smelling stuff coming out of it. Choose joy. I love that saying. It is in my house in at least 3 different locations that I can think of right now. You choose it. It is a choice. Choosing to be happy each day when I wake up, and be thankful for what I do have has brought such amazing richness to my life. Does that mean things are perfect? Not even close. It doesn't even mean that I will not feel sadness. But, I continue to choose joy and peace anyway. When you are on a plane, they instruct you to secure your oxygen mask before assisting others. It is the same in life. We cannot have anything to give if we are not first making sure we have something worth giving. We are worth putting effort into. Sometimes, that will look like a before photo. We have to start somewhere! Our relationships, our walk with God, our health, our self worth is all what we make it.

We are all befores. But, that's okay. A before means you're trying. A before means you are a blank slate and can go anywhere you want to. A before photo is taken when you are ready to start the journey to transformation. And isn't that what we are all doing every day? A friend I haven't seen in awhile will usually ask something along the lines of "What is new?" to which I usually reply "Not much!". But, then when I look back on my life over the last 5 years, it's almost unrecognizable. Things will change, so we may as well have a say in how. We are not the final after photo until we are gone, so until then, keep trying.

“In this world you're either growing or you're dying so get in motion and grow.” - Lou Holtz

But, really. Organize your closet.